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  • Writer's pictureCarina Burridge

What if it was never meant to be easy?!

Wait, what?! Ok, so here it comes. For some reason I had this idea that once I start pursuing the things that are aligned with my 'calling'/ 'purpose'/'greater reason' #whateveryouwanttocallit then everything will fall into place and smooth sailing all the way. I knew it would be tough and of course hard work, long hours etc. but hey what an amazing payoff when you finally get to spend time doing what you love, right?! #ehhwrong Well, at least for me. Or let's say, at least now I know what hard work actually looks like. Don't get me wrong, I've always been a hard worker - I mean I grew up in East Germany. #nostereotypinghere but #saynomore.

Since deciding to open my own business, however, I get the true meaning of hard work. Especially since it isn't the physical work that gets me stuck. No, not me. For me, the real hard work comes from overwriting the old patterns. Allowing myself to be all me, to fail, to just share what I have to say, to not just finding my voice but to also use it, no matter if anyone likes it that's the hard work. So how does that look like? At the moment that looks like actually sitting down and letting the words appear on paper and on the screen and not judging it and most importantly not to clean the windows or prepare the weekly meals or to wash the car or to make the fifth cup of tea #hydrationisimportant or #fillintheblanks #procratinationatitsbest

I know I've talked about this before and it's all about taking the first step and keeping it simple but since I am still not mastering it yet I have to talk it out again - as I am committed to share my struggles. #sharingiscaring

@RobinSharma said it so beautifully: 'Change is hard at first, messy in the middle and gorgeous at the end.' So here I am wanting the gorgeous before the hard and messy stuff. #slowdownsunshine

The new lesson for me was that it's also about discipline and consistency. And don't get me wrong I am very disciplined and consistent in other areas of my life but what I realised was, that I wasn't disciplined enough to keep going and not to let my old fears creep in and take over. I got stuck in the HOW. I am changing almost 4 decades of doing the tough stuff, not questioning why, just getting it done, bullying myself through life and denying the vulnerable side in me. So of course it is hard to share from the heart and be open and gentle (with myself) in order to get things done without getting the bully out and having the inner critic taking the lead.

And that is what I wanted to share. If you are struggling with getting things done and starting something new, please listen: It was never meant to be easy. But we also don't have to make it harder as it already is neither. Love yourself enough to be fierce in pursuing your dreams while being gentle with yourself. #whatwouldlovedo Just keep going. Do your best until you know better. You are doing great. You will mess up and that is fantastic because that is the only way you learn. #justkeepgoing You've got this! In order for me to get out of the rut I took on @LoriHarder 's advise of doing one hard thing a day that will bring me closer to my desired outcome. I don't have to work through the whole list of hard stuff at once, just one hard thing a day while having @KerwinRae in my head saying: 'This is simple. This is easy. This is fun.' Its amazing what such a small shift can do. #productivityup So be gentle with yourself. At the same time, don't be too soft on yourself neither - I mean how badly to you want things to change? A little bit of pressure helps you moving forward, because remember change is hard at first, so have an accountability partner and set deadlines. You don't have to do it alone. Love yourself enough to make it happen, ask for help and enjoy the journey.

If there are some roadblocks in front of you right now, please know that I am cheering you on and I am proud of you! Just keep going! You've got this! Once your are through the hard and messy bits, it will be gorgeous. #promise #talkingtomyselfhere #watchthisspace #youarenotalone

Love and Namaste

xxx Carina xxx

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